Over the years, I've told colleagues and friends about things I have seen or experienced. Many times, people have said that I should write them down so that they won't be lost and forgotten, since some of them might be useful parts of our history. I've been writing them down, without being sure what I would do with them. I decided to gradually post them on this website, and see what reactions I get. I suggest reading from the bottom up (starting with the August 2017 post "The Meritocracy"). Thoughtful and kind feedback would be useful for me, and would help me to revise the exposition to make it as useful as possible. I hope that while you read my stories you will ask yourself "What can I learn from this?" I'm particularly interested in knowing what you see as the point of the story, or what you take away from it. Please send feedback to asilverb@gmail.com. Thanks for taking the time to read and hopefully reflect on them!

I often run the stories past the people I mention, even when they are anonymized, to get their feedback and give them a chance to correct the record or ask for changes. When they tell me they're happy to be named, I sometimes do so. When I give letters as pseudonyms, there is no correlation between those letters and the names of the real people.

Monday, January 15, 2018

Don't tell anyone. They'll be jealous.

When I was a child, my mother told me a story. When she accepted one of her first jobs, her boss told her "Don't tell your salary to your co-workers, since they'll be jealous." After she eventually quit, she and her co-workers went to lunch and ended up exchanging salary information. It turned out that my mother had been the lowest paid employee. That's when she realized that the boss didn't want her to discuss salary so she wouldn't find out how poorly she was being paid.

So when I got a job offer and the department Chair said "Don't tell your salary offer to anyone in the department, since they'll be jealous," I burst out laughing.

From an early age, I've had a fondness for the adage "knowledge is power".