Over the years, I've told colleagues and friends about things I have seen or experienced. Many times, people have said that I should write them down so that they won't be lost and forgotten, since some of them might be useful parts of our history. I've been writing them down, without being sure what I would do with them. I decided to gradually post them on this website, and see what reactions I get. I suggest reading from the bottom up (starting with the August 2017 post "The Meritocracy"). Thoughtful and kind feedback would be useful for me, and would help me to revise the exposition to make it as useful as possible. I hope that while you read my stories you will ask yourself "What can I learn from this?" I'm particularly interested in knowing what you see as the point of the story, or what you take away from it. Please send feedback to asilverb@gmail.com. Thanks for taking the time to read and hopefully reflect on them!

I often run the stories past the people I mention, even when they are anonymized, to get their feedback and give them a chance to correct the record or ask for changes. When they tell me they're happy to be named, I sometimes do so. When I give letters as pseudonyms, there is no correlation between those letters and the names of the real people.

Thursday, June 17, 2021

Lesson from my father

 I was perhaps 9 or 10 years old when I told my father that I was due for a raise in my weekly allowance, from 15 cents to 25 cents. (Yes, this either dates me, or says something about our socioeconomic status, or both.)

I explained to him that 25 cents was the going rate.

"How do you know that?" he asked.

"All my friends are getting 25 cents," I replied.

"Who, for example?"

"Suzy next door."

"How do you know that Suzy next door is getting 25 cents?" he asked.

"She told me."

"So all you know is that Suzy told you she's getting 25 cents. You don't know that she's getting 25 cents. For all you know, she's telling her parents that she wants a raise since you're getting 25 cents."

"Are you saying my friends are lying?" A weak and angry retort, but it was the best I could do. I had already lost. I think we compromised at 20 cents.

It's true that my training as a mathematician, especially at math summer camp when I was in high school, helps me distinguish true from false, and true from "someone told me it was true". So I'm continually surprised when I see mathematicians fall for false "proofs" or fake news. But then I remember that I had the additional benefit of learning from a father who was a newspaper reporter back in the day when journalism was supposed to be about facts, not opinion.